- When he brings home teabags
- When he takes one of my children to the shop with him
- When he dances
- When he paints
- When my children ask where he is
- When he gives me his last $100 to pay my bills
- When he wants to go for ‘a look in town’ at one in the morning
- When he will listen to one CD on continuous replay for two weeks
- When he does ‘voices’
- When one of my children wants to speak to him on the phone after me
- When he goes out of a rainy night to get rubbish bags
- When he tells me I’m his favourite – even though he tells others too
- When he laughs unashamedly
- When he encourages me to go out with friends – male or female
- When he tries to clean up
- When he plants stone-trees
- When he brings home surprises
- When he sings
- When he is complicated
- When we are with others
- When he talks to my best friends for hours on the phone
- When he is naked
- When he gives me his attention
- When he is freshly shaved
- When he goes to pick up my children
- When he feeds me
- When he says he’ll never love me
- When he has a day that he likes people
- When he is peaceful
blah Journal April – Dec 1998